PEOPLE’s MIRAGE – what you see, may not always be!

While driving across India on our road trips, we would see shimmering water ahead on the road. As kids we’d shriek in delight that there was water on the road ahead and on reaching there it’d never be there. My father explained to us then, the concept of mirage.

Years later as I grew up and the English language became my principle weapon of communication for all kinds of feelings, I found myself using this word frequently for myriad reasons.

Over the past year or so I have encountered an IMAX experience in what I have begun to call: My People’s Mirage.

I list some delightful mirage personas:

Gracious smooth-talking team member – could be any or all of these – deceitful, untruthful, misleading, unreliable – the gracious front is often a veil to hide other sentiments.

Concerned, too-caring colleague – could be any or all of these – impulsive, annoyed, snappy, insincere – the too-much-of-caring front is often a veil to hide other over-powering attitudes.

Smiling, often agreeing-with-you person – could be any or all of these – real-good at being fake, phoney, unauthentic, pretenders – the easily agreeing smile is a mask over their fake personality.

In-control, know-all leader – could be any or all of these – imposter, fraud, play-actor, bully – the loud controlling nature is a façade to hide the hollowness inside.

Simple, so-much-to-learn-from-you friend – could be any or all of these – camouflage, deceptive, misleading, deceiver – the playing-victim-kind of whiner who tries to manipulate everyone, even friends.

Sophisticated, Urbane chic person – could be any or all of these – narcissist, egoistic, distant, reserved – the hard-to-get go-getter who tends to intimidate the unpretentious types.

Self-admiring, self-centred advisors – could be any or all of these – immodest, pompous, disdainful, smug – the full-of-themselves priggish, holier-than-thou types who feel they are the best thing that happened to this world.

Modest, hapless yet lucky-to-be-born-with-a-silver-spoon people – could be any or all of these – meek, docile, star-crossed, conceited – the autocratic, cavalier, high-handed types, forever portraying to be classy & upmarket.

Then I also have my other spectrum of people in this mirage – all those who are real, genuine, authentic, frank, sincere, unfeigned, touchable, dependable, rock-solid, robust, level-headed, trustworthy, composed, rational.

For with people, there cannot be an ‘in-between’ type. I could either care or couldn’t care. I could be frank or be evasive. I could be dependable or unreliable. I cannot be someone ‘in-between’ at all.

As we interact and mingle with people, it isn’t about how they change, its only about their real selves getting revealed. For what I am inside my home, outside with friends, in my work place, in a party – anywhere and everywhere – it is what I really am. If I am different people at different places then I am not real, I am not authentic ‘Me’.

Thus, I always love my trips everywhere, because I see the ‘real’, for over time, I have come to so loathe the fake I see around me. It may be trending but then, I prefer to be out-of-fashion!

The quaint in nature is acceptable because it is nostalgically attractive …..
The vastness of the landscape is capricious and mystical at the same time, so much like the people we encounter as we go about living the circus called LIFE!
    The traveller in me looks not to tarry a while but nothing around seems to be in a hurry! Take your time to understand all around you, dwell on their actions and their mannerisms and take time to formulate your opinions though listen to your first instinctive thoughts too….
The dolphin seems to be plunging deep into the books – well, it looks like the sea world has understood the importance of books and reading…..I hope our kids would too and our teachers would instil that love!
The shades of autumn are hypnotising and the colour changing leaves are harmless, so unlike the fickle human nature.
Journeys can take us to all kinds of destinations and the route itself can be charming and intriguing, much like human behaviour. The only difference being that destinations don’t leave the travellers feeling tricked or swindled or cynical while human behaviour can!
The perspectives on holidays remain so assorted that it cannot be narrowed down to any feeling and its always about experiencing it fully, from all angles! So true with human relations as well, you learn nothing till you experience it and are able to familiarize oneself with all possibilities – otherwise how do we call ourselves: veterans & battle scared?!

1 thought on “PEOPLE’s MIRAGE – what you see, may not always be!

  1. Well written. So very true.

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this:
search previous next tag category expand menu location phone mail time cart zoom edit close