An odd forward from a friend got me to think of this – acknowledging the anonymous forward: Salut!
Our outside, the exterior, our reactions, our conduct of ourselves in different situations shows what we are inside, what our backgrounds are, what were the ethos of our growing up years, what did we assimilate from our influences. Very often when I see people react or do certain things or behave in certain ways – I start to gauge what makes them do it that way for according to me it always is a reflection of what we’ve seen, the influences around us and the situations as we encountered them, moments as we faced them as we were growing up….that make us react in the ways we do.
If some one rejoices in another’s achievement or moment of triumph, it is because that person can think of others before self.
If someone feels another’s pain and heart-break and agony as their own affliction, it is because that person has got the capability of feeling the wretchedness as their own.
If someone gets distraught when being misunderstood even after being genuine – its not because that person is a bitter person but because the learning has been that work or love must be done sincerely and authentically as opposed to hypocritically.
If someone goes out of the way to help others with zero expectation in return, its rarely due to a want for the spotlight and usually because they are genuine & pure of heart.
If someone understands the sentiments of what another person is articulating in all its legitimacy and reacts with responsibility, its because that person can see beyond self-centeredness.
By way of explanation it would mean that what the world in my vicinity, now perceives as an exception, for some folks around the world is a way of life.
So, should this kind of realness be given up for the more accepted form of behaviour?
The jury can be out, but the fact will remain that it will and is because of such noble and pure souls that people continue to believe in humanness and sanity prevails in our society because the faith is kept alive that all is not lost!!!
If I am an orange, I shall give just an orange juice, no doubt but if I am a spoilt, fungus infected orange going bad inside, my juice shall be contaminated & impure as well!
I see people’s reaction to situations, circumstances, settings, positions, people, emotions – the whole Jing-bang of being an alive humanoid – and judge or ascertain what the background is. I do not do it the other way around.
In short, for me the outside helps me establish what’s inside. And I am not alone.