How much is ‘enough’?

Or ‘enough’ of anything and everything?

Enough of being treated unfairly.

Enough of abuse of any kind.

Enough of being taken for granted.

Enough of what we have.

Enough of feeling not worth it.

Enough of feeling a sense of guilt, always.

Enough of explaining onself.

Enough of ‘enough’ itself!!!

There is unfairness around us. And the sooner we all learn that it shall always be there, we shall stop feeling bad about it. Or disheartened. Or maybe depressed too. As a race, we humans have mastered the art of making one of ourselves always feel bad if that person isn’t us. We are totally in love with our own selves but we cannot see others be successful or better off than us or doing well for themselves. We tend to derive all our negativity from seeing others thrive.

None of us are similarly made nor do we come from similar circumstances or backgrounds. hence what we have in store for us would be different from the next person. We aren’t even of similar fate with our own immediate families – so others outside it? Definitely not. Yet we do not realise this fact nor do we give it the due importance. The thought and realization that each of us – even a mother and her child – have come into this world with their own program of action. They may walk the same path for a while but those paths will fork away ultimately – maybe run parallelly but definitely not meet up too often. Which should be fine. Isn’t it?

Why do we always want what the other person has? Why doesn’t what we have satisfy us, gratify us? And if we have a decent life, then why do we want more? These are questions, I ask myself very frequently and answers aren’t forth coming. The cliched answers or the philosophical ones we have heard umpteen times – thanks to social media but have we learnt our lessons?

And over a few years I have realised that education does change a lot of things but for mindsets to change – we need the right upbringing. Education only hides the regressions in the thought processes, it doesn’t eradicate it. People become smart enough to put their best attitude forward and become adept at hiding that which they feel may be disapproved by the larger audience around them. That is what makes ‘enough’ or the lack of it more glaring.

It will start to be ‘enough’ when we have:

• Gratitude for what we already have through the right means – there is enough for everyone, we need to eliminate GREED.
• Thankfulness for being alive and surrounded by those who care – there is always someone there for us, Lord Almighty never leaves us defend less, we just need to be able to IDENTIFY who they are.
• Strength to ask for help – it is always available, we just need to shed our FEAR & sometimes our EGOS.
• Self-respect & self-love for oneself – till you INCREASE the VALUE of yourself in your own eyes, no one else ever would.
• Fearlessness to deal with situations of all kinds – it is inside everyone of us, we just need to eliminate DOUBT.
• Opinions which give voice to others who cannot speak for themselves – it shall always help that ONE MORE person is there who faces the same trails, same tribulations, same situations, seek sanctuary in NUMBERS.
• Taken a stand for ourselves and those who need it around us – each of us should start believeing in the POWER of our own MINDS.
• Focus on the solutions rather than the problems – except for life and death, we have control over our lives, we are a product of our OWN ACTIONS.
• Truthfulness of thought and deed – each of us should incorporate total HONESTY in everything we take up, half-hearted is for the weak.
• Seek joy & happiness in the simple day to day things in life – finding pleasure in one’s OWN COMPANY and in normal ROUTINES eliminates anxiety & bitterness.
• Learnt the art of ignoring and letting go – that which is of no direct concern to us nor inflicting any harm on anyone should be listened to, NOT processed and DISMISSED instantly.
• Teach our kids that respect & value of a person comes from the intellect and not the size of the bank balance, the vehicle or the house – one is remembered after our term in this world by HOW we made others feel, not WHAT we possessed in material terms.
• Understood that gender is a noun and there is no verb or action which can be specifically attributed to either of its differentiation of the species – mindsets for either come from the REGRESSION worked into an upbringing.
• Realised that ‘enough’ is the new ‘No’ – use it more often and celebrate all those who DO.